Each time a painful emotion is felt, it provides an opportunity. How?
Pain
gives us the gift of growth in a hidden package. Something is shouting out for
a change.
If we pause and open this gift, a
great secret of freedom and love can be revealed. Sometimes when the pain is
large enough, we have no choice but to look at it anyway. My largest pains have
helped to open the greatest growths in my life. Hey,
it’s worth a shot, right?
Finding a healthy way to vent can even help to
relieve anxiety, something more and more of us are suffering from in these
times. Those who don’t find a healthy way of venting often stuff it inside
until they explode one day or get into the habit of finding ways to numb
themselves, such as eating.
Frustration is considered a secondary emotion of
anger. Emotions tell us things about our situation and anger means that action
needs to be taken or something needs to be corrected. When things don’t go out
way, we get worked up and when we’re worked up and have nowhere to put hat
energy, frustration builds.
Ways to Vent Your Frustrations
1. Recognizing triggers and finding alternatives
This is one of the techniques which will help you decrease your frustration or anger very easily. For instance, if your daily commute turns you into ball of rage and frustration, try finding an alternative route or leaving earlier for work. The basic idea here is to understand the things that trigger your anger. Once you are aware of what they are, you can take steps to avoid them.
2. Cry
It can help wonders on freeing up the stored up energy inside that is too much to contain within. While crying you can connect with the pain you feel and cry into it. Additionally, if you are shy to cry in front of anyone, cry to yourself; lock yourself in a bathroom and let the emotions leave your body.
3. Write
Writing can help clear the overwhelming information in your head. More than often the things you are feeling seem waay big in your head than on paper. Writing will provide a great clarity that other ways may not give. You can easily reflect on what you were feeling in the situation.
4. Exercise
Running, boxing, hitting the gym and walking all allow great ways to vent. This allows you to direct your energy towards your physical fitness and lets the anger flow through your body and cools you down. Plus getting in shape can’t be that bad, right?
5. Talk
Let me give you an example:
One woman told me the story of a nurse who rode the bus every day. She found a way to let go of anger immediately. She did not direct it at her family or others. Instead, she got on the bus and waited for a passenger to sit near. She’d ask if they minded listening to her and if not, she’d share her dilemma. Once she’d talked it out, she’d thank them and get off the bus. Often times, we can learn so much just by hearing ourselves speak and we don’t need much feedback at all. If you have a trusted confident or teacher, even better.
6. Practice meditation
It helps you balance your emotions and avoid acting impulsively.
7. Pet an animal
Research shows that petting a dog lowers stress hormone cortisol and between people and dogs actually increases levels of the feel good hormone Oxytocin.
8. Focus on what you appreciate
Instead of dwelling on your day’s misfortunes, try refocusing on the things that went well. try finding the silver lining of your day.
9. Check in on your expectations
Unrealistic expectations create dissatisfaction, so be mindful on what you expect from people.
10. Make a list of your stressors
It is similar to identifying the stressors that make your angry or frustrated. Finding ways to avoid them will help.
11. Talk to a therapist or seek help
It’s totally normal and healthy to feel upset an angry from time to time. But if you can’t shake a bad mood or constantly feel overwhelmed by anger, it might be time to ask for help.
If your anger is impacting your relationships and well-being, talking with a qualified therapist can help you work through the sources of your anger and help you develop better coping tools.
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